Possessive - Ben

Possessive Towards Your Girlfriend?

Yesterday I was chatting with my old schoolmate we had a topic regarding boyfriends attitude now days are getting possessive. What do I mean by possessive ? Its like what ever your girlfriend do must report to you and your girlfriend cannot go out with any guys alone except for you. Besides that there are many more symptoms of a guy being possessive.

List:
1)What ever you do must report to BF.
2)Cannot go out with other guys alone even if its just friends.
3)Cannot wear any cloths that appeal people or less cloth.
4)Easily jealous if u told her about your other guy friends.
5)If wants to go out for a guy friends party must go with him / in a group of girls that your bf knows.
6)Always thinks that the GF belong to him and only him.
7)The girlfriend is too pretty and there are a lot admirers awaiting for chances.

Why is guys becoming possessive?
Well from my point of view its only 1 reason there which is the guy is afraid that his girlfriend might leave him alone, In other words hes a coward that scared of losing his girlfriend and this can only happen if the guy have no confidence in himself that he can please the girlfriend and make her stay loyal to her. In contrary you will see some guys actually don't control their girlfriends because they feel that its part of trust in a relationship. Only those who can trust will turn into possessive, and for a girl to put up with this kind of attitude the girl must have been truly love this man besides that she already put in what is called trust in the relationship but still the guy isn't there to respond. Partly a reason is that maybe the girlfriend is too good looking or there are many guys out there awaiting chances to take action to confess to her but thats not the point cause for her to choose him its the biggest sign that he is the one that she likes, Of course you will say that there are better guys out there that she haven't come across but the point is that even if your possessive does it guarantee that she will not leave you for a better man ? In order to take such step to become a possessive boy friend , he can actually improve himself so that he fits the girl best.

For me?
Well if i ever have such a great looking girlfriend and so on to match up with the situation up there. There is only one way for me to to do this which is believe her. Trust her, and improve yourself in many aspects that make her feel that your the one but if she still wants to leave you over another guy then its her lost and not mine. I truly don't believe in forcing a relationship or controlling and there is a living example for me to see which is my friend she had a relationship for 7 years with a guy and she finally left him because she couldn't stand the controlling and she don't feel that she is living on a life of her own instead of her bf`s life.

well all this are my 2cents have no proven facts nor done any researched in it its truly what I feel.

Comments are welcome

Btw my post here only talks about Why and What I think of possessiveness but if you want to know more

Here - By Dorin Goh [Pro n Cons of Possessiveness]
Here - By Jade Lee [There are other factors other than Possessiveness]

Enjoy our Views of Possessive attitude.